Stop Being So Deterministic Already

I have a B.S. in Human Development and Family Studies. Yes, I have attended college and obtained a degree that is all but worthless in my current occupation . . . law. What exactly does one study to obtain a degree such as the one I have shamefully hanging above my desk in the office at home? Well, you study life span development; the physical, psychological, emotional, cognitive, etc. development of individuals and family over time. So I think it would be fair to say that I know the tiniest bit of information about what the "researchers" are saying about what are detrimental or encouraging signs during the course of one's development (although I would never call myself an expert or anything else loosely related to such a distinguished and coveted title).



What I do not understand is how there is still such an overarching assumption among the researchers and the lay persons insist on arguing that children who experience some sort of traumatic event in childhood will develop some sort of skewed sense of morality.



Explanations? Go ahead. Try me.



Of course the event(s) have an influence on the individual. After all, we are formed by those things we encounter and spar with throughout life. My question however pertains to the outcome, not the influence. Just because someone is influenced by an event does not necessitate a negative outcome. The outcome could possible be positive.



To all of those who assume that a negative is inevitable, that the behavior of the one who traumatizes will be repeated by the traumatized, abandon the deficit approach. Do not look at an event as something that is inevitable and try to prevent those who have been traumatized individual from having children of their own. Do not scoff at these individuals and tell them they will do to their own exactly what was done to them. Perhaps it is those of you who limit an individuals growth by pinning another into an inevitable outcome who should be held accountable when you are right.



Promote growth . . . don't limit with your presumptions and negativity.